Discomfort Zone
The Female of the Species
Watching a great performance of a play on Sunday at St James Cavalier, Valletta Malta, reminded me (as a Relationship Coach)of many common difficulties in the relationships between men and women.
The clever script was inspired by an incident in the life of Feminist Germaine Greer. The lead character is a writer of Feminist ideas, and her books reflect changing attitudes to the relationship between the sexes, as she offers one different solution to life after another, book by book, leaving perhaps a trail of readers trying to follow one or other suggested lifestyle. Her big success was written 35 years earlier, and in the play she struggles to any inspiration to write a new book which the Publisher needs to stay in business.
The characters in the play are all recognisable stereotypes, from the child deserted by her mother at birth, as recommended in the authors first bestseller book advising women to follow their dreams. The author’s daughter feels unloved by her mother, does not know who her father is, and is overwhelmed by bringing up three small children, while her husband, trying to help, is emancipated , does the tasks at home, but offers her no sexual excitement, or outlet which she craves, or at least she would if she was not always tired.
She needs dominating sexual energy from her man and without it lives in frustration and depression. Does any reader relate to this? Does a woman want a MAN, or a cleaner (or both in one)?
The taxi driver comes in, he has been through the emasculated process but returned to masculinity which attracts the unsatisfied daughter. And so it continues with amusing dialogue and the audience are surely all relating to one scenario being discussed, or another.
Taking one relationship example: Our LIFE FORCE energy is sexual, and where man and woman are together, however much he shares the tasks of the home, or she has career or outside interests, a relationship without sex or intimacy to satisfy both parties, is unbalanced and unsatisfying for at least one.
I see this is my relationship coaching and can offer a mirror to man and woman, and guide them, if they desire it, to a sensual, intimate, fulfilling relationship. Tantric practices can be so helpful to achieve this.
Of course this will never work for some couples, who may live in unsatisfying compromise because they enjoy some other part of the relationship, or are afraid to leave the comfort zone (which they know, for fear of what lies beyond), one or both often just shutting down this important part of life.
I prefer to call this the discomfort zone!
Some will realise that there is more to life, and ultimately leave to find partners with whom they can enjoy a satisfying balanced life using the LIFE FORCE – sexual energies, which stimulate feel good hormonal chemicals to the brain, lifting depression, and giving energy for quality work and leisure.
I recommend the play if it comes to a theatre near to you.
If you are in Malta there are further performances on 9, 10 & 11 March 2012.
