Power of Masculine & Power of Feminine

The secret of a powerful man is that he is a pillar of consciousness who is able to contain all the contradictions of life and remain centered.This begins by him accepting his power and his vulnerability together in the same moment. He accepts his animal instinct as well as his intellectual refinement. He is thus able to hold a woman who is the very embodiment of contradictions. She is Shakti, containing all the varied and liquid forms of feminine nature. Ruled by the moon, she changes with the ebb and flow of the tides. Her orgasm catapults her beyond mind, into transcendent reality. The greatest gift for the man happens when he is able to be the pure fire of awareness, Shiva, holding Shakti as she lets go into multi orgasmic splendour.

The secret of a powerful woman is that she is fully alive to her loving, devotional, emotional and psychic abilities. She is fluid like water, and is therefore able to accept change easily. Going with the flow, is the way of yin. She craves nothing so much as finding a man, or a god to whom she may abandon herself to in fullest surrender. Letting go and being possessed by the divine masculine is her deepest ecstasy. She is able to let go, because her throne is the heart, the seat of love. And every woman knows deep down, that God is love, and that love is God. Since the very essence of divinity finds its abode in her heart, she can afford to be sweet, giving and nurturing.

Now imagine for a moment what an amazing world we would be living in, if men and women lived their true opposite and yet complementary natures, with integrity. Imagine a politician who was in touch with his vulnerable inner child, while at the same time was able to remain rooted in his pillar of consciousness, nourished by deep meditation. Imagine a politician who was able to offer his beloved a night of multi orgasmic union, and was then able to give a speech to the nation on the necessity of caring for the earth as we would care for our own mother. He is both strong, and vulnerable, and this is what makes him eminently attractive. He has learned the art of loving a woman and this has ignited the desire to love and care for his country.

And imagine, how it would be, if a radiantly loving multi orgasmic woman were to work in a corporate setting, and had the power to run it her way. Her office is full of plants and flowers, she offers holistic healing to her workers, and her company has the feeling of a loving family. All her customers are encouraged to love and nurture themselves and she has a unique system of profit sharing and a clear intention to give back to the earth whatever has been borrowed. The building she works in has been designed to honour the undulating contours of nature, and is ecological and self-sustaining.

In our present time, it is unfortunate that men have forgotten their deeper potential. They tend to be either at the extreme of testosterone, going amok on a power crazed rape of the earth and her resources, or in the opposite extreme of feeling so deeply apologetic for being men that they become effeminate and cut off from their masculine resources. And women, ahh, sisters, how sad it is to see you turning your back on feminine grace and trying in vain to compete with men by acquiring masculine qualities! You will be able to help yourselves and the world much more, by opening up your true feminine glory. The Goddess is back, and this time, she seeks balance of the sexes. Like two banks of a river, we appear separate, and yet in the middle of the river of life, we meet, and experience being one in essence. How rich is the union of opposites!

I see the future as that of love, joy and celebration. I sense that in the new dawn of humanity, Tantra will find its true place, offering as it does the alchemy for the meeting of sex, love and spirit. When our animal nature is recognized as divine, and when our spirituality is fully embodied, we will then know the fullness of our potential. We will discover wholeness, and healing. We will realize God as male and female in perfect union.
༺♥༻ Sarita {Two Banks of the River of Life} ╰დ╮❤╭დ╯

Art by Canan Berber© ❤

BEHIND THE FAÇADE – ANOTHER SEXLESS MARRIAGE

(Actually Two non-intimate relationships)

A friend opens up to encourage others in the same situation to GET A LIFE.

Names changed for anonymity.

Hi David, do you know that Paul and I separated this year?

We had been growing apart for quite a few years and I had been unhappy and unsatisfied for a very long time.

Life is so short to be unhappy so, better late than never, I grabbed life with both hands. I'm sad I’ve hurt my girls (women now) I doubt they'll ever forgive me but perhaps they will understand one day when they experience life for themselves. I can relate to so many of your Facebook posts now that I'm in the zone of feeling fulfilled…..at long last!

I just had to do this "for me" 

Why is life and love so complicated? Will has been in a friendship, not really a full relationship for about 18 months and has found it hard to let the lady down, although it had almost run it's course before it began. There has never been anything physical between them.

I met him by pure chance earlier in the year and am convinced it was fate that we connected ... the rest just got better and better.

I would have left Paul sooner or later as my unhappiness had become so huge I couldn't contain it, 28 years is a lifetime in itself! Will is going to make the full break after the New Year. I know how hard it is to get the timing and the words right!!

I've had three months on my own here and although I've loved my independence I know I belong with someone rather than not, he's the other half of me and I felt the spark the first time we spoke on the phone, but he wasn't ready to commit until a good while later.

I have had to wait until he is ready. I’m on a different level these days. I now know that I've never really truly loved until now.

I guess we all have high expectations, we all assume that marriage is for life, until life shows us otherwise! I truly believe Will and I have the most wonderful future together but until we start really living the dream we're still not quite there but we have promised to always do our best for each other.

I can feel the lack of intimacy, like an endless deep pain. I've lived without intimacy for what feels like forever. It really isn't living at all, and Will too in his relationship.

I’m actually surprised I have children!!

Lack of intimacy is a huge part of why I couldn't stay any longer, but we were so mismatched from day one in that area.  I'm a woman and at long last someone has noticed, although Will and I have the whole package, but oooh the physical side to me is the icing on the cake of life. 

I really feel in tune with lots of your posts; isn't it amazing how looking at the world with fresh eyes and a happy heart can make you feel so alive!!!

Someone said to me recently that it was a really brave thing to jump ship ... I replied that I'm so thrilled I did because the water's gorgeous.

I’ve had a good handful of people openly admit to me that they wish they were in my shoes because they're just as frustrated. It would have been easier to stay and put up with what my old life was like, but I feel so refreshed and alive that I'm taking charge and actually living my life for me now, but you have to have the courage to take that plunge.

We're only human with needs and desires, it's completely natural, Most people won't discuss their own private intimacy, Paul never would, not even with me, which is partly why we struggled so much, I'm a very open person and that's just who I am. But some people who can discuss intimacy will still never change the way they are.

Maybe one day Paul can find a way to open his mind and thoughts, and I hope for his sake he does, but I never managed to see inside in almost 30 years we were together, how sad really!

He said when we're old it (sex) won't happen anyway and beds are for sleeping in! I was only in my early 30's at the time, and believe me, hearing that was pretty depressing.

I really should have called it a day MUCH sooner; I married far too young as well, I was just 20, merely a child really. He was older but that should not matter. He should have been the one to show me sexuality.

Paul semi-retired five years ago and that's when it really hit me, he was at home 24/7, hardly left the house, it was such an unhealthy existence, for both of us and I found myself going out more and more, and then needing to be out more and more.

I did have a few little flings, but nothing serious, I was obviously looking for someone special on my way through life. People do change as they get older, sometimes you can grow together and sometimes you grow apart.

If one person isn't fulfilled then it really is time to call it a day with the relationship.

A marriage without intimacy is a slow death.

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Thanks Patricia for sharing your story to inspire, and give hope to others.

If you need a listening ear…..

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LOVE - CHAINS or FREEDOM?

LOVE - CHAINS or FREEDOM?

Some people won’t fall in love because they fear they will be chained.  They block the possibilities and literally shut down part of themselves.

It is a pity that for some "love" relates to "dependence", "chains and "loss of freedom".

What is love? Love is different things to different people.

There is the family love a mother has for her child, or a brother has for a sister. That one does not normally cause confusion.

When we say we fall in love with someone, that love may be(come) the deepest love in our life, but we can at the same time love other people. Care is needed in the use of the word. A person can become very angry if he/ she feels that the partner does not only have love for her/ him.

It can break good relationships.

The perfect relationship is where two people come together, each fulfilled and whole in themselves, and they exist alongside each other, enjoying each other, but not depending on the other, or propping up the other in dependency. They are independent but are together.

That can be called unconditional love where we can love and expect nothing in return. We give freedom to that person. Unconditional love is also what can have for mankind, for nature, for animals. We can love everyone and everything this way. We can love each person in a yoga class but it does not mean that we will leave our partner or have sex with those people.

The problems arise when one person NEEDS another and they form a “needing / propping up each other” relationship. Even if they act quite independently, they speak of “having” the partner, as if he/ she is some trophy or prize possession.

Then they start to impose terms and conditions. “Don’t do this, Don’t see that person, don’t look at other women / men…….”

Using such words shows FEAR, fear of losing the person, jealousy, control….

In contrast - two  well-adjusted individuals , happy with themselves as individuals, can love the other in the opposite way, giving each other freedom to develop to their potential, freedom to be themselves, and not to be controlled. They can each observe a pretty woman or handsome man in the street, and share and discuss their true feelings “wow, great legs, great tits, great stomach” and not feel threatened.

Actually many parents will say to their children, “if you don’t do…. I will not love you”, again, by the words, creating a condition, so the child learns to be loved conditionally (if he – she does the right thing) not unconditionally, which should be the way.

We can love our partner, subject to our terms and conditions, being jealous, untrusting, controlling, like they are a possession, and then “love” for any other person is a threat. We FEAR that our partner may love another and leave us. We restrict and chain our partner with these expectations.

This is conditional love, so common, so often the reason why otherwise great relationships break up.

Often the people concerned come together in passion, and fall apart in anger jealousy and passion, or they possess, control, and chain the other, not ever realising it, and don’t allow the partner to reach their potential, or even to have special friends. Conditional love is often denying what the partner desires, and putting “me” first,

 OR

We can love our partner, unconditionally, allowing freedom for that person be become their true self. We can love others at the same time, without being a threat to the “relationship”. We accept that the partner can have some special friends for certain things the partner can’t provide, sometimes even sexual, by agreement.

Unconditional love is allowing the partner to have what they desire, and putting them first.

The only way to be in a relationship of unconditional love is to be conscious, to be honest, open and transparent, and to discuss everything. Not everyone is ready for this.

Are you? Is your partner?

Is the biggest risk staying in a dishonest, fear based relationship with secrets, invisible chains and conditions, or moving to an honest, open transparent conscious relationship with freedom?

ATTRACTING A LIFE PARTNER

ATTRACTING A LIFE PARTNER

Eva tells how she attracted her life partner after years of nothing working for her.

(Names changed for anonymity)

Dear David

Thanks for sharing your Facebook posts and giving positive energies and encouragement! I feel they are meant for me, resonating with me lately and helping me very much...

These months I lost my Dad, and encountered blind hate and violence, worse than I could imagine... but I’m good, keeping positive and meditating a lot.

True, this time is very challenging for me, but I also can feel the uplifting beautiful energies around!! I`m 100% sure that life works in circles.

I experienced God in these hard times better than ever... his helping hand and that He always listens and always knows the best timing...... and compensates us in mysterious ways! In the toughest times I could see with greatest clarity... in the deepest pain...emotional and physical...

Even how my Dad passed away I’m grateful for every minute. He woke up from coma mysteriously because I wanted to speak with him (I did distance healing as well) so he waited for me and I could introduce him my fiancee to him. He gave us his blessings and we spent few days together and God took him just after this....Also I could speak with my Dad after he died... in my deepest grief... he was with me anytime I wanted and supported me until I asked him to leave into afterlife, because he can`t stay with me.......and I learnt to let go....

Also I met with my life partner just when my Dad started to became weaker and weaker...and preparing to depart. They actually do the same work ..and I could tell you a lot of signs showing how God/Universe is helping my path... I try to focus on the positive gifts in my life and staying thankful for everything!

It may surprise you but I wasn`t even in a serious relationship for more than 10 years, and obviously like this I could not attract my life partner for a very long time... the worst was when I started to accept this, and was letting the desire go... which wasn`t the right way... when I felt almost physical pain from being lonely,

1. I reviewed my fears.... and I dug very deeply...and yes, I had protected myself from being attached to someone deeply ….so I had to delete this hidden, unconscious behaviour. No longer could I face and accept the fear, but instead I chose to focus on my desire...and pumping up that with energy!

2. Then I started meditating a lot, and asking the Universe to bring my perfect Partner, and giving the full Trust regarding this - that from above they will know who is my ideal partner!

3. I tried not to limit my specific "requirements/wish list"  

4. I just let go the details.... but strengthened the desire and will 

...and John was SO different from the picture in my mind; he is a man I would not ever have imagined for myself!!

As the filters still blocked my mind I didn`t recognise him first at all  ... but He did!! Thank God, and today this is the deepest relationship, the most real connection I could imagine and wish for... I feel like he is my twin soul. And the love increases day by day, and on deeper and deeper levels... without even the slightest passion from my side at the very beginning! 

Then I learned something..... I thought I knew myself and that "I know" ... what is the best for me. ... which is not true!! because they sent me someone from above who I would (with my "intelligent" mind) simply walk away from.... that was the biggest lesson for me! John and I are connected in heart not in mind.

Keep the trust in life, and look around always... for me it worked this way!! The "solution" is often closer than we could imagine!! big hug Eva xxxx

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